When you are caught in a toxic relationship, you don’t really understand just how bad you have it while you’re still in it. Sure, you get an idea that things really aren’t all that swell. But you really understand the profoundness of your situation only when you’ve seen what the grass is really like on the other side. When you’re in a toxic relationship, it can be very hard for you to realize just how bad things are in that moment. You are forced to deal with so many feelings and emotions while you’re stuck in that toxic relationship. However, your rationality and your logic can get compromised in the thick of it all. Your reasoning can be muddled. And sometimes, you’re going to need to take a step back from the situation before you can have a good grasp of things.
It can be very easy to grow addicted and dependent on your toxic relationship. You are made to realize your own worthlessness to the point that you grow dependent on the person who is tormenting you. And that’s always a sad thing. That’s always unfortunate. You want so desperately to get out of the hole that you’re in; but the longer that you stay in it, the more difficult it becomes.
While you’re in a toxic relationship, you don’t always realize just how much damage is being done on you. You don’t always see just how much of yourself is being harmed and damaged. But if you’re lucky enough, you eventually muster the strength to actually walk away from that situation. If you’re lucky enough, you find the courage to walk away and fall in love with someone new; someone better.
And the new experience of actually falling in love with someone might be overwhelming. It’s a totally foreign situation and you might not be equipped to deal with all of it – even if it’s all positive changes. Here are a few things that are bound to happen to you when you date a great guy after being in a toxic relationship.
- You will expect everything to be bad.
You’ve only ever known bad relationships; and so you’re always going to expect a bad relationship. That’s all the traumatic effects that being in a toxic relationship can have on you.
- You will over think everything.
You are going to read so much into every little thing. You will be taken aback at how different everything seems to be; and so you’re going to try to make sense of it all even if it’s so foreign to you.
- You are going to be suspicious of how good everything is.
And even though things are going so well, you don’t allow yourself to get comfortable. You get the feeling that it’s just too good to be true. You get the sense that you’re living in some kind of fantasy land and reality is going to slap you right in the face pretty soon. That’s why you continue to brace yourself for the worst.
- You will try to push him away.
Things are getting pretty serious and you’re starting to get scared. You opened your heart to a guy once before and it backfired on you. It all blew up right in your face. And you don’t want to put yourself in the same position now. That’s why you try to push him away.
- You will always be anticipating fights.
There was no shortage of fights in your previous relationship; and that’s why you are always anticipating fights in this new one that you’re in. It’s just how you’ve been conditioned.
- You will unnecessarily apologize all of the time.
You are so used to being made to feel like such a screw-up that you always hand out apologies that aren’t really necessary. You will be saying sorry for things that you don’t really have to be sorry about. And that’s another adjustment that you will realize that you have to make.
- You will try to overcompensate.
And once you realize just how good you have it, you will want to give as much as you can right back into the relationship. You will want to invest all of yourself into the relationship at this point.
- You will eventually learn to trust him.
And you let your guards down. You allow yourself to be vulnerable towards a guy who you know is going to take care of you; someone who is going to treat you better.
- You will finally learn what it means to find true love with a person.
And at the end of it all, when a love is true, it’s going to last. And it’s going to be the most beautiful thing that you are ever going to get to share with another person. You will finally grow to understand and appreciate the magic of true love.
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